What I know now,
that I didn't know before:
There is more to life than we know.
testimonial tuesday #17
I find it incredibly hard to imagine a future beyond what I have experienced in my past. Apparently, this has to do with the actual psycho-biological process and activity of the mind; idea being that the mind literally cannot envision something that has not happened yet. This might be like trying to picture color if you were born color blind, or trying to imagine what a Mozart symphony might sound like if you were born without the ability to hear. As we live and process the events of our lives, the mind breaks everything down into little tiny bits, which it then uses to try and formulate a vision for the future. However, if we are trying to formulate a vision for the future that is different from our past, how do we do this?
This is part of the work that I have done with Rachael over the last year (since last April). And while I’m not sure if there is a ‘technical’ answer the the question, I can tell you what I have learned so far:
WHEN MOVING INTO A FUTURE THAT FEELS AUTHENTIC AND HONEST:
1. Pay attention to the feeling.
Not in the sense that we let our emotions dictate our lives, but pay attention to how you feel when you picture a certain scenario or place or career or even spending time doing something or interacting with anyone at all. Generally, if we look to our inner knowledge, we are able to sense how we feel about what we are about to do or what we are contemplating doing. Do the days events feel bright and joyful? Does spending time with your co-workers feel heavy or constricting? When you are faced with something that you feel like you SHOULD do, tune in to how you FEEL about it. Body knowledge is incredibly powerful, and I have found it to also be incredibly clear.
2. Take a deep breath.
The mind, God bless it, is built for ‘fixing’. It is like a drill or a calculator that never quite turns off.
When given something productive to do, it can lend its talents to creative problem solving and conflict resolution. However, when left with nothing to 'fix' it can just as quickly turn in on itself, creating problems where there are none, just so it has something to do. This is where breathing comes in. After you have that glorious moment of 'A-ha!' (thanks, in part, to the miraculous workings of the mind), notice how quickly the mind goes to work to start solving the 'problem' that it JUST FIXED. And instead of boarding that run away train, stop. Take a deep breath. And then another one. Give your brain the gift of oxygen and tune in to the present moment (where the mind and the heart meet). Take a deep breath, and give yourself some clarity, while giving your brain a rest. It works hard for you!
3. Accept that all things are possible.
When I asked the above question to a friend of mine, he had the following response:
"I’m confident that in order to accept things we cannot envision we must truly accept that all versions of that future are a possibility and not actively block or be blind to any opportunities that may arise along the path.” My work with Rachael has led me back to this idea time and time again; the acceptance that anything is possible.
Number three has been the hardest. I so strongly desire to know what is going to happen, that I have often attempted to live out the ending before the beginning even starts. This methodology does not allow for much flexibility, and generally sets me up for feeling let down. But the other way feels hard. Or, rather, the other way requires a lot of patience…and patience has never ben a virtue of mine :-).
On the flip side, when you DO choose to believe that all things are possible, it seems to let the brain expand. When I tell myself that all things are possible, my mind starts to come up with ideas for my life that I never would have dared to ponder in days gone by.
Perhaps this is something to keep in mind.
If you truly believed that anything is possible
and the future is yours for the making and taking;
Where would you go?
What would you do?
Who would you be?
When I ask myself that question, I find that I am actually moving in a direction that feels good…but there are many many miles to go before I sleep.
Perhaps this is the actual living that makes up a life...now there's a thought. :-)
If anything is possible...and anything IS possible...
then what do YOU want to create?
What do YOU know now,
that you didn't know before?